It often happens without you realising at first. One day, you notice that people don’t look your way as much. Your opinion in meetings seems to carry less weight. You start to feel overlooked by others and perhaps by yourself, too.

It’s almost as if you are starting to fade away, becoming invisible as younger, louder, more confident people start to loom over you.

Many women experience this sense of invisibility as they grow older, particularly in midlife. Our youth-obsessed culture often equates value with appearance, energy, and external success, leaving women who are older, wiser, and more grounded feeling unseen.

This could have happened to you or someone you know. You may have felt aggrieved that you have been overlooked for someone else, knowing full well that this is a bias against age, not experience or talent.

A client I worked with told me a story of her sister being overlooked at a bar, younger people being served before her, even though she had been standing waiting patiently.

The scary part, she said, was that she didn’t raise a fuss; she just stood patiently waiting to be noticed.

But here’s the truth: you are not invisible. You’ve simply outgrown a system that doesn’t know how to value depth, experience, and authenticity.

As a holistic life coach for women, I see this pattern often. The key isn’t to chase visibility through external validation; it’s to reconnect to your own inner light, to let it shine so brightly that others can’t help but see you.

Have you heard about the benefits of mindfulness, but you aren’t quite sure what it’s all about?

Many people confuse mindfulness with meditation; sitting in a state of quiet, blocking out intrusive thoughts that pop into their minds. This is not mindfulness!

Mindfulness is the opposite. Mindfulness is about observing fully everything that is around you in the present moment. Your thoughts, your feelings, your environment, everything.

Mindfulness allows you to be fully aware and present in the moment, which is the only place we ever fully live.

Therefore, developing an active mindfulness practice is essential for your holistic well-being. It helps with your physical, mental and emotional well-being and helps you to live with less stress and anxiety, more clarity and happiness.

Taking a mindful walk daily is one of the best ways to introduce yourself to mindfulness.

To do a mindful walk, choose a quiet place without distractions. Focus your attention on the sensation of your feet touching the ground, the movement of your legs, and the rhythm of your breath.

As you walk, notice the sounds around you, the smells in the air, and the feeling of the air on your skin.

When your mind wanders, which it will do when you first begin, gently bring your awareness back to the present moment without judging or berating yourself.

Keep your pace steady and relaxed; this allows you to fully experience each step and each moment as it comes.

We all ask questions about the purpose of life from time to time. Whether it is the big, soul-searching questions such as “Am I on the right track?” or "What legacy do I want to leave behind?" to more everyday questions such as, "What activities make me feel most fulfilled?"

Life purpose questions are reflective inquiries that help you explore your values, passions, and goals.

By contemplating these questions, you will gain clarity on what truly matters to you and identify your path in life.

Engaging with life purpose questions encourages deeper self-awareness and can guide decision-making processes, ultimately leading to a more meaningful and intentional existence.

There can be many times in your life you will feel trapped. You could be feeling trapped by life at this precise moment. If you can relate to this you will no doubt be looking for ways to lose this feeling and feel free again.

Feeling trapped can be different for everyone. Some people may feel trapped because of a bad relationship, while others may feel trapped because of overbearing family members, a bad job, ill health, or a lack of money.

Each reason for feeling trapped can differ from person to person but the feelings will be the same.

Feeling trapped often manifests as a profound sense of confinement. It can create an internal struggle, where hopes and dreams seem out of reach, leaving you feeling powerless and stuck in your current circumstances.

This sensation may be accompanied by anxiety, frustration, or sadness, as the desire for change clashes with the inability to take action.

The weight of expectations or responsibilities can further exacerbate the feeling, making it challenging to envision a path toward freedom or fulfilment.

Living your best life will mean something different to everyone but there are some common traits we can all adopt to make sure we are living our best lives. Setting and pursuing your goals and dreams is one of the simplest and easiest ways to begin. Doing what you love will mean living a life you love that motivates and excites you. Be true to your values and embrace opportunities to help you grow. Prioritizing your well-being and happiness, and cultivating positive relationships with yourself and others.

There can be many times when you feel lost in life. This is not a situation that is restricted to age or social circumstances.

Anyone can feel lost whether in a loving committed relationship or single, whether they have their dream job and lifestyle or are just starting in life.

There are many reasons for feeling lost in life.

Bereavement or divorce can be a factor, leaving home or University, starting a new job or moving to a new location or just lacking in self-confidence.

The one thing most people would agree on is when you are feeling lost in life, it can be overwhelming and disorienting.

The first step to finding yourself is to slow down and permit yourself to explore your thoughts and emotions.

Spend time working on your inner thoughts to understand the reasons for your feelings.

Are you someone who lives life to the full? Makes plans and sets goals and always has opportunities on the go?

Do you surround yourself with like-minded people and feel that you are getting the best out of your life? If this is you, then you are no doubt someone who has an active mindset.

An active mindset is a mental state characterized by a proactive and engaged approach to life. It involves being fully present in the current moment, taking the initiative to pursue goals, and maintaining a positive attitude towards challenges.

Individuals with an active mindset seek growth opportunities, view setbacks as learning experiences, and embrace change as a natural part of life.

This mindset prioritizes taking action, being resilient in the face of adversity, and continuously striving for personal development. By cultivating an active mindset, individuals can navigate life with purpose, passion, and a sense of empowerment.

Everyone needs to make decisions in life, whether they are big or small have huge consequences or are simple outcomes there’s no getting away from them.

Because of this, decision-making is a crucial skill that we need to learn due to its direct impact on the course of our lives.

Whether considering a career change, a change in relationship, a house move, or daily adjustment to routines, the process of decision-making requires thoughtful analysis, weighing of options, and consideration of potential outcomes.

To get the correct outcome therefore learning to strike a balance between logic in the situation and what your intuition is saying can often be key when navigating the complexities of decision-making.

Anyone who has suffered or is suffering from disturbed sleeping patterns associated with menopause will understand straight away the issues this symptom can bring.

You are lying there at night, staring at the ceiling counting down the hours until you have to get up or tossing and turning pleading with yourself to go to sleep aware of how tired and irritable you will be the next day if you don’t get some sleep.

Are you feeling lost in your 60s? Have you just turned 60 and are feeling depressed? Do you feel that you have lost your mojo and are wondering how to get it back? Or do you feel that at 60 that’s it, you feel too old and there’s no way that you can start over?

You live in your head all of the time and so you need to know how to talk to yourself in your head in a way that is going to be beneficial to you.

That internal constant chatter can either raise you up or bring you down depending on what you say to yourself.

Self-talk is that inner chatter that is influenced by your subconscious mind that highlights your thoughts, feelings, questions and beliefs. The way that you speak to yourself will determine how you feel about yourself and how you treat yourself. It will also determine how other people view you and treat you.

People who are confident in themselves and their abilities will have a good inner dialogue but people who look negatively towards themselves, and have little or no self-confidence will talk negatively to themselves.