You know you need to begin, you know that it will be good for you, the new exercise routine, career move, self-care routine or relationship.

You have been meaning to make the changes for some time now, but still here you are, in the same position, thinking the same thoughts.

You tell yourself you’ll start tomorrow. Then the next day. Then the one after that. A task that once felt simple, one that you wanted to start, you were so excited about, now feels heavy, almost too big to hold.

And in the background, a familiar whisper starts to build
“Why can’t I just get on with it?”
“What’s wrong with me?”

We have probably all been here, I know I have, but here’s the truth: nothing is wrong with you.

You aren’t broken, useless or lacking drive and motivation; all of these flaws you have been telling yourself.

Procrastination is not a flaw in your character; it’s a signal from a part of you that’s feeling overwhelmed, unseen, scared, or simply tired of pushing.

As women, we carry emotional and energetic loads that rarely get acknowledged. And when those loads build up, motivation naturally begins to fade.

Not because we don’t care, but because we’ve been caring for everything and everyone for too long without tending to ourselves.

The drive that was once there fades as everything else seems more important; your needs begin to take a back seat.

You begin to feel that you are stuck, lost, lacking purpose, and there is no way out of this mire. This is where a holistic approach changes everything.

It often happens without you realising at first. One day, you notice that people don’t look your way as much. Your opinion in meetings seems to carry less weight. You start to feel overlooked by others and perhaps by yourself, too.

It’s almost as if you are starting to fade away, becoming invisible as younger, louder, more confident people start to loom over you.

Many women experience this sense of invisibility as they grow older, particularly in midlife. Our youth-obsessed culture often equates value with appearance, energy, and external success, leaving women who are older, wiser, and more grounded feeling unseen.

This could have happened to you or someone you know. You may have felt aggrieved that you have been overlooked for someone else, knowing full well that this is a bias against age, not experience or talent.

A client I worked with told me a story of her sister being overlooked at a bar, younger people being served before her, even though she had been standing waiting patiently.

The scary part, she said, was that she didn’t raise a fuss; she just stood patiently waiting to be noticed.

But here’s the truth: you are not invisible. You’ve simply outgrown a system that doesn’t know how to value depth, experience, and authenticity.

As a holistic life coach for women, I see this pattern often. The key isn’t to chase visibility through external validation; it’s to reconnect to your own inner light, to let it shine so brightly that others can’t help but see you.

Seasonal change can have a real impact on how we feel and function. It is more noticeable when the clocks are going back and daylight is disappearing earlier.

During this time, many people notice a dip in energy, motivation or mood. They can start to withdraw into themselves and can find it harder to get going, stay focused, and stay socially connected.

Although this is a situation that happens every year, many still find the transition difficult to cope with.

So, instead of pushing through or trying to ignore it, this is an opportunity to create a Hygge routine, a gentle, grounding approach that brings comfort, calm and steadiness to your everyday life.

You may well have heard of the concept of Hygge already. It comes from Danish culture, but you don’t need to live the Scandinavian lifestyle to practise it.

Hygge is simply about creating an environment and rhythm that supports your emotional well-being.

This is about feeling safe, nourished, rested and connected, not about creating a picture-perfect cosy aesthetic.

Are you happy with your life at this moment? Do you feel you are on the right track, making the right decisions and getting the results you want from your life or do you feel like you are struggling a bit, as if you are out of step with your direction?

If you are feeling like this, you aren’t alone. This is a common feeling among many women, especially as they get into midlife and begin to focus on personal development and life transformation.

These feelings of being stuck, disconnected, lost or lacking fulfilment are usually to do with your mindset and how you are thinking about life.

What you need to be aware of is that your mindset shapes every experience, decision, and result in your life.

The way you think determines the way you live, and if you’ve ever felt stuck, unfulfilled, or unsure of your next move, the key to breaking free lies in changing your mindset.

In this blog post, you’ll learn how to shift your perspective, develop empowering habits, and create lasting transformation from within.

Do you ever get the feeling that you are stuck, as if you have hit the pause button on life? If you do, you’re not alone. So many women reach the point where they have done everything that they are “supposed” to do, you know, all of those societal expectations, built a career, raised a family, built the perfect home life, supported other people. Yet, they get to a stage where something feels off.

This could be how you are feeling at this moment as you are reading these words. You may be feeling lost, stuck, unfulfilled, or disconnected from the life you have spent so long building.

You may also be feeling like you have failed, as if all of those years spent up to now have been for nothing if you are feeling this way.

But this is what I want to tell you, and I want you to understand (coming from someone who has felt the same way). This isn’t failure. It’s a sign that you’re ready for change.

For growth and alignment. Your time is now, and it’s scary, but exciting!!

You may be feeling stuck in life at present. Unsure of where to go next, what direction to take.

The good news? You are reading this, and I have been on your journey, and now I help other women get to a point in their lives where they have found their direction and purpose.

You can make the changes you need to make in order to have the life you want. It’s there inside of you; you just need the tools to bring it out.

We all live our lives by core values, whether we are aware of it or not. They are the internal compass that helps us make decisions and structure our lives.

Core values are the fundamental beliefs and guiding principles that shape our behaviour, decisions, and interactions with others.

These core values serve as a personal compass, helping to define what is most important in life and influencing how goals are pursued and challenges are handled. In short, they make us the people we are.

Most of the core values we follow will have been there all of the time, and some we will have adopted as we have gone through life and experiences.

Some you will be aware of and some not. Identifying and understanding your core values is essential for creating a meaningful and consistent life, as they provide clarity and motivation for living authentically and making choices that align with your true self.

My role as a life coach means I work with many women in different situations, but the one I work with most often is the feeling of being stuck or lacking direction, especially through the mid-life years.

Now this is something I have had experience with. My coaching practice began as a result of me feeling stuck in the life I was living and wanting more purpose, passion and happiness.

Feeling stuck, restless, or facing the quiet solitude of an empty nest can bring up many emotions and a profound sense of uncertainty and loss.

These emotions are valid and common among midlife women who are trying to live their lives while significant changes are happening all around.

This is where holistic coaching becomes such a valuable tool, as holistic life coaching offers a compassionate approach to help you reconnect with your inner self, uncover new passions, and gain clarity about your next chapter.

When we address the mind, body, and spirit as one whole interconnected entity, you can reclaim your purpose and build a fulfilling, authentic life tailored to your evolving dreams and goals.

Have you heard about the benefits of mindfulness, but you aren’t quite sure what it’s all about?

Many people confuse mindfulness with meditation; sitting in a state of quiet, blocking out intrusive thoughts that pop into their minds. This is not mindfulness!

Mindfulness is the opposite. Mindfulness is about observing fully everything that is around you in the present moment. Your thoughts, your feelings, your environment, everything.

Mindfulness allows you to be fully aware and present in the moment, which is the only place we ever fully live.

Therefore, developing an active mindfulness practice is essential for your holistic well-being. It helps with your physical, mental and emotional well-being and helps you to live with less stress and anxiety, more clarity and happiness.

Taking a mindful walk daily is one of the best ways to introduce yourself to mindfulness.

To do a mindful walk, choose a quiet place without distractions. Focus your attention on the sensation of your feet touching the ground, the movement of your legs, and the rhythm of your breath.

As you walk, notice the sounds around you, the smells in the air, and the feeling of the air on your skin.

When your mind wanders, which it will do when you first begin, gently bring your awareness back to the present moment without judging or berating yourself.

Keep your pace steady and relaxed; this allows you to fully experience each step and each moment as it comes.

Over the last few years, there has been a lot of information flooding social media about holistic retreats. At any one time, there seems to be a retreat being run. The popularity of holistic retreats has exploded, and with very good reason…they work!

You may have heard about them, be intrigued by them, or even feel you would benefit from going, but are you fully aware of what they are and the benefits they can offer you?

If you are unsure, curious or interested and would like to discover some more information before you book somewhere, then you have come to the right place.

A holistic retreat is a focused experience designed to promote overall well-being by addressing the mind, body, and spirit.

It typically combines various practices such as meditation, yoga, nutritional guidance, and personal development workshops to foster healing, balance, and self-awareness.

These retreats aim to create a supportive environment where you can disconnect from daily stress, reflect on your life goals, and cultivate healthy habits that contribute to lasting positive change.

The holistic approach recognises the interconnectedness of mental, emotional, and physical health as essential for achieving true wellness.

We can all have that feeling from time to time of being lost. It can start as a single thought one day, and before you know it, you are stuck in a mindset of depression, negativity and feeling that you have totally lost your way in life.

It can appear out of the blue or can creep up, a niggle here, a doubt there. Whichever way it shows up, it can leave you feeling paralysed with doubt, fear and indecision, almost trapped in your own life.

But the good news…yes, there is good news; this can sometimes be a sign from your mind that you need to make changes, and it can be the wake-up call to start moving forward in your life with positivity and purpose.

I understand where you are coming from because I felt like this a few years ago… adrift in my own life, like I had lost my purpose, my reason and I was unsure of which direction to go in…I didn’t know what I wanted I just knew I wanted something more, something different and I needed to rediscover the person who I had been before I felt like this.

And so I embarked on a journey to rediscover myself, to fall back in love with my life, to find my purpose and push myself forward in new, exciting ways that stretched and challenged me.

Have you noticed thoughts creeping in now you are in your fifties, ones that ask, “Is this it?” I hear it often, from clients, friends, and even at times from myself.

Fifty is supposed to be a time of wisdom, freedom, and confidence. And yet, for many of us, it feels like a chapter closing, not opening.

Maybe it’s the views of society that say your prime has passed. Or the relentless social media reels of youth flooding your feed.

Or perhaps it’s because you mourn versions of you that never got to be. The career you didn’t pursue.

The relationship that didn’t bloom. The dreams you put to one side to deal with life’s responsibilities.

But here’s something I want to tell you: Feeling like life is over doesn’t mean it actually is.

This could be a sign that something exciting is evolving. The roles you have played in your life up to now are making way for something better.

Your life isn’t over. It’s pivoting. And in that pivot, there is adventure and power.

In fact, this chapter, this messy, questioning chapter, might be the first time life starts to feel like yours.

Have you ever scrolled past someone’s success story and thought, “Good for them, but I could never…”? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

Self-belief can feel out of reach when you’re stuck in self-doubt, but confidence isn’t a personality trait; it’s a practice.

“Why do I struggle to believe in myself?” This is a question I hear often, during coaching sessions with women who, on the surface, look as if they have life sorted.

They are ticking the right boxes and seem to be in control, and yet this question arises so many times…“Why can’t I just believe in myself?”

And if you’ve ever asked it too, know this: you’re not broken, and you’re certainly not alone.

The simple truth is, many of us were never taught how to believe in ourselves. We were taught to keep our heads down, not to get “too big for our boots”, and to put others first.

And while humility has its place, over time it can chip away at our sense of self if we’re not careful.

Another simple truth is, confidence isn’t something reserved for a chosen few, the winners in life; it’s something we build. It’s like a garden, with the right tools, you can start cultivating it, bit by bit.

Do you feel stuck and are afraid to break out of your comfort zone? This is a condition that happens to most of us from time to time.

The desire to stretch ourselves, do something different or make big changes in our lives, and yet, the thought of leaving our comfort zone is too intimidating.

Leaving your comfort zone can be a significant challenge because it often involves stepping into the unknown.

This can trigger feelings of fear and anxiety. The familiarity and comfort of your current situation provide a sense of security and predictability, making it difficult to venture into new experiences or situations that are unfamiliar.

Additionally, the fear of failure, judgment, or making mistakes can hold you back, as can a lack of confidence in your ability to adapt to change or new situations.

This internal resistance is further made worse by habits and routines that feel comfortable but may not serve your long-term goals.

Overcoming these mental barriers requires self-reflection and a willingness to embrace discomfort as a way to grow and face new opportunities.

Life these days is stressful. In truth, throughout time, people have had different levels of stress to cope with. Today, though, in the fast-paced, often chaotic world we live in, there can be many triggers causing stress in our lives.

Although we can all be affected by stress at some time or another, we have more ways of understanding the causes and coping with stress when it arises.

Understanding stress is essential for us all, as it significantly impacts both our mental and physical well-being.

When faced with stress, the body enters a state of heightened alertness, triggering the release of stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline.

These changes prepare the body for a "fight or flight" response, which can be beneficial in short bursts but may lead to negative consequences when stress is prolonged.

Chronic stress can cause a range of health issues, including headaches, digestive problems, and cardiovascular diseases.

Additionally, it can weaken the immune system, making it harder for the body to fend off illness. Recognising and managing stress is vital for maintaining overall health and ensuring a balanced life.

Have you just turned thirty or are you about to, and feel a certain amount of worry and trepidation?

This is not uncommon; in fact, many people worry about turning 30 due to societal pressures and personal expectations surrounding this milestone age.

Turning 30 often triggers self-reflection and comparison to societal timelines. Have you made the right career choice, and are you advancing?

Have you met the right partner, ideas of buying a home and starting a family? Are you putting enough money away for your retirement?

The endless questions and second-guessing can leave many stressed and anxious.

Milestone birthdays can heighten anxiety and prompt women to reassess their life choices.

The unrealistic standards created by other people on social media can create anxiety and impossible standards, meaning you can be thrown into a downward spiral of negativity.

Are you about to turn forty or in your forties and feeling in need of advice about facing this time? If so, you aren’t alone. Many women get to the age of forty and start to question many aspects of their lives, themselves and what they are doing.

The truth is, turning forty can signify a pivotal moment in a woman's life, often prompting a reassessment of values, goals, and personal identity.

Psychologically, this milestone may evoke a mix of emotions, including reflection on past achievements and concerns about the future.

Does this sound familiar to you? If so, you need to understand that it’s not uncommon for women to feel pressure to conform to societal expectations, which can lead to stress and self-doubt.

However, this age also marks an opportunity for self-care and empowerment; women are encouraged to embrace their individuality and prioritise their well-being.

Investing time in self-care practices—such as mindfulness, exercise, and pursuing passions—not only enhances mental health but also fosters a sense of agency and fulfilment as they navigate this transformative decade.

Impostor syndrome can affect anyone, regardless of age, background, social status or intellect.

It is a psychological condition where people often feel like a fraud, doubting their achievements and always believing they will be discovered as a fraud, despite evidence of their abilities.

Impostor syndrome is often caused by factors, including personality traits, social pressures, and environmental influences.

If you are someone with high perfectionist values, you may set unattainable standards. This can lead you to feeling inadequate when those expectations you have set can’t be met.

There can be other factors, such as the validation of peers, friends, family or society in general, especially in the social media age we live in. This can heighten feelings of self-doubt when you are successful.

Culture and working environments can also contribute to impostor syndrome, such as the stigma around failure and competitive situations.

These individual experiences can appear as a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud," despite evidence of competence and accomplishments

Positive self-talk is the inner dialogue that uplifts, supports, and encourages you rather than criticises or doubts.

It's the voice that says, “I can handle this,” even when you're feeling unsure. Instead of focusing on limitations, it helps you see possibilities and build resilience.

Positive self-talk doesn’t ignore difficulties—it reframes them. Positive self-talk has been shown to improve psychological well-being, reduce stress, and even boost immunity.

A simple example would be shifting from “I’m terrible at this” to “I’m learning and improving every day.”

Are you the sort of person who says “Yes” to everything when every fibre of you wants to scream” No!”? Do you feel delegated to do everything, whether at work or at home, and you end up feeling taken for granted and used, yet you do it anyway?

If either of these scenarios resonates with you, you are suffering from a lack of assertiveness, fearing the reaction of other people instead of standing up for yourself.

This is a very common problem many people suffer from, but the good news is that once identified, you can rid yourself of it.

Struggling to be assertive often stems from a fear of conflict, rejection, or the desire to be liked.

Many people were never taught how to express their needs confidently, especially if they grew up in environments where being passive or overly accommodating was encouraged.

This can lead to internalized beliefs that speaking up is selfish or rude. However, assertiveness is about balance—honouring both your needs and the needs of others.

Start by noticing situations where you remain silent even when you have something important to express

Self-care journaling is the practice of writing to nurture your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

It provides a safe space to express thoughts, track emotions, and better understand yourself. Think of it almost as a mental audit: Everything that is going through your mind can be written down to be evaluated and fact-checked.

Those limiting self-beliefs, doubts, worries and concerns can all be jotted down to free your mind for more positive thoughts.

Studies show journaling can reduce stress, improve mood, and enhance self-awareness.

Whether used for reflection, gratitude, or goal-setting, self-care journaling is a powerful tool to allow you to grow whilst also taking care of your mental well-being.